We're raising a generation of wimps

I’m not the one saying that. Psychology Today wrote the article bck in November 04 But I can’t say I disagree. We’re getting rid of … in playgrounds because little Roscoe broke a tooth. We’re talking to Lia's coach because she doesn’t have enough game time. We talk to the dean of the college where our little Brent will go in the fall to discuss security and grades. And we wonder about binge drinking? Those poor kids are so unprepared for college, of course they will do crazy stuff!

This came back to me a couple of weeks ago when I was in Canada visiting my son and his family. Here are two adults, still too young in my opinion but I’m just the mother, in their mid-twenties with two young children and who take their roles as parents very seriously. They both work, and in retail where hours are crazy, and they come home and it’s all about family and the children. These children are learning how far they can go, and the parents are consistent in their limits. They were perfectly balanced, well behaved and happy children. We went to a park and had the best time. We went to a restaurant and had the best time. We were never concerned about fits or yelling. I was never so proud.

I read somewhere else that raising children is now the responsibility of society and not of parents anymore. Have you ever seen a brat at Wal-Mart and tried to tell the kid or the mother to behave? I guess I’m not what we call “society”. That’s a bunch of bull. It starts with parents. We are responsible for our children. They don’t have to be spanked all the time. They can understand that there are things that are just unacceptable. They can also be sent out to play for a while. Falling down and getting back up is part of life. We as kids did it all the time. Why would it not be good enough for our kids?

When we were growing up, there was probably not enough emphasis on safety. We knew if we did something wrong there would be consequences, either we’d get hurt or we’d go to the principal’s office. Oh and if daddy found out… That’s how we learned to survive in this world that is not fair, not balanced and certainly not safe. We are not helping our children by doing everything for them, or by letting them do whatever they want without consequences.

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We're raising a generation of wimps