Hit it, and be Gone!

One of my all time favorites on YouTube is Skyy John. His most recent "video on the streets" was based around Booty Calls. What constitutes as as one, how do you know when you are one, etc. It got me to thinking on this phenomenon. More and more often, singles are hanging up the towel on possibilities of real romance to satisfy highly sexed libidos. It can be liberating, and even more so efficient to get down with another hot body every so often and go your separate ways rather than make a relationship work. Why is this?

A grown up partnership takes time, effort, and can drive us to the point of complete insanity. But then our Beloved will do things that remind us why we love them to begin with and how we stay together. "Booty call", "Hit and Run", whatever color you want to paint it or name you want to give it, it is still emotional detachment. Sure, I think when you're younger and carry a certain level of immaturity, this may be the right road for you. The only person you answer to is yourself. You call the shots, make the rules (upon an agreeance of terms with your hookup mate of course), you are never "tied down" and restricted to a lifestyle of boring monogamy.

A couple years back, I made the unwise decision to have a one night stand (not a booty call, but could have grown in that stature if I had allowed it to). I wasn't at all interested in this guy past an awkward acquaintance/friend ordeal, he literally was, as ugly as it sounds, an "experiment". He had spoken to mutual friends of his desire in going out on an official date with me. What can I say, I was bored and thought, what the hell (see how our twenties can make us so ignorant at times)?!

We appropriately met at a somewhat popular dive bar and mustered substantial conversation over a couple rounds of beer. An hour or so later, we transitioned to another bar location to add pool to the mix and endured some bad karaoke stylings of the native locals. After what most would prevail as a part of the "getting to know one another" stage, I followed him in my car to his place. He nonchalantly gave the grand tour of his new diggs (little to no furniture), and he subtly got the point by my lack of awe in our surroundings and anything left he had to say at that point.

So, without question, the deed was done and I couldn't wait to get the hell out (sounds cold doesn't it)? The intuition of mine came about knowing full well that he had hoped there was equal satisfaction on my part, but for the first time in my life, I really did not care about going forward. He called persistently for a while after that, and I let the poor guy find himself just another sad addition to my voicemail that never gets returned. So, he wasn't a booty call, per say for the technicality that it was once and then done forever, but I grasp the concept and got a feel for what it is like.

Unemotional connections; not for me. I can not sleep with another guy for the soul reasoning of achieving orgasm (most guys can't accomplish the feat anyway, ha)! It is much more satisfying and fulfilling sharing my body with one person, and one person only, in a strictly monogamous partnership. Skyy goes on about knowing when you are a booty call (if you have to ask, you shouldn't be in a relationship anyway), and my personal favorite, what you should do when your caller wants to quit the games and make things serious and official. Yikes!

I was speaking with my younger sister on the subject, and we came to an agreement that YOU NEVER DATE YOUR BOOTY CALL, EVER! The entire point that they are just sex to begin with usually revolves around the point that they are not even close to being an ideal candidate for a boyfriend/girlfriend, the sex just happens to be really good. Sure, there is a minority out there that build wonderful couples from this empty lifestyle, but commonly, it is just sex and then the splits. Who wants to hang around a box of rocks when the only things they have to offer is great stamina in the sack? I sure as hell wouldn't strive for more between the sheets. You're a notch on the post for good reason, don't make an easy opposition become a trying feat of "where is this going"?

So, give me your take on Booty Calls.

Have you ever had, or have one now?

What guidelines do you follow?

Would you think of dating them down the road?

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Hit it, and be Gone!